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Baby, it’s cold outside. The high today is 0, the low is -15 and the windchill feels like -28-degrees. The wind howls and I grumble…time to research a few winter vacation destinations! This is the kind of bone chilling feeling that tells you, “No matter what you do, don’t open any doors adjacent to the elements!” Why? You’ll freeze instantly!

I DID venture outside to take a few pictures of the formations in the snow (on the side of our house). I like to think they look like a coastal shore- waves approaching…dancing, tickling my toes. Oh yeah…that was the frost-bite kicking in. haha…Wishful thinking!

It’s a good night to stay in and snuggle-up! The boys are working on the computer. Why have a silly toy computer when your Daddy is an IT Guru?

Winter Solstice

Though winter may have officially arrived, those of us in Minnesota have already broken out the winter coats and accessories, long before this day. Being that this is the darkest day of the year, shedding some light is in store! We re-visited the topic, from Friday, with Nishad.

Reason for the Seasons
The reason for the different seasons at opposite times of the year in the two hemispheres is that while the earth rotates about the sun, it also spins on its axis, which is tilted some 23.5 degrees towards the plane of its rotation. It is because of this tilt, that the Northern Hemisphere receives less direct sunlight (creating winter) while the Southern Hemisphere receives more direct sunlight (creating summer).

Longest Night of the Year
The winter solstice marks the shortest day and the longest night of the year. The sun appears at its lowest point in the sky, and its noontime elevation appears to be the same for several days before and after the solstice. Hence the origin of the word solstice, which comes from Latin solstitium, from sol, “sun” and –stitium, “a stoppage.” From this point on, after the solstice, the days begin to grow longer and the nights shorter.

We began our morning celebration by making a crafty snowman to replace “Turkey Hiding in the Grass” artwork, proudly displayed above Nishad and Arun’s table. It’s going to be so much having Nishad around in the mornings. I plan on being very selfish and savoring this special time with my boys! Oh the places we will go, the things we will do…the fun we will have, the memories we will create! (Yes, a little bit of Seuss in me today!)

Ashish has off Wednesday through Friday as his work is closed- but the nature of his work never stops. 🙂 He never uses vacation time at this time of the year because it’s so slow, low-key…and well, we’d rather go someplace warm when we use those days! With four or five weeks of PTO per year and several winter months in Minnesota, one has to use those days wisely!

TV Kid Nation

Everyone rears their children the best they know how. Just as our parents did. However, just because your parents did something, it doesn’t mean that you have to. Furthermore, just because of societal pressure to graze with the sheep, it doesn’t mean that you have to give in as a parent to do as others do.
Ashish and I have always been very conscious of what our children read, see and do. We do our part in making sure companies don’t market directly to them. This comes largely in part by way of TV, movies, dvds and educational (a-hem) programing. We also understand that they are learning so much and their minds are little sponges. What they need to learn are real-life things; touching, seeing, tasting, exploring…Not a mindless gaze at the tube.
I recall way back in school an assignment I had to complete for a child psychology class. I had to watch 20-minutes of a cartoon/”educational programming” for children and count the violent acts viewed. I literally lost count. This is pre-children…I can only imagine how I would view it as a parent.
I admit, last week, Nishad did watch a musical (of course!), “Annie.” One that I second guessed in showing as soon as I saw Miss Hannigan snuggled up with the “Jack Daniels.” Then there was a gun (something that isn’t even in Nishad’s vocabulary) in the hands of rooster as he chased after Annie to “kill” (another word not in Nishad’s vocabulary) Annie. Needless to say, we had several breaks through the movie to take a moment to walk away from less desirable scenes. Auntie Kelly tried to ease my nerves and make me feel better by saying that he “probably just recalls all the singing and dancing.” Let’s hope so!
I feel especially proud though that we didn’t give in or give up by letting Nishad watch TV programs and such before 3 years old. Not many parents can say that- I know my parents couldn’t. However, the joy comes in knowing that we did the right thing for Nishad. Our child isn’t a toy crazed commercial pup that yearns for Spiderman, Batman, Thomas, Wiggles, etc. He knows his Bunder (Curiuos George stuffed animal) as simply that…a bunder (monkey in Hindi). I love that!

Blizzard

This is my attempt of embracing a Minnesota winter…yes, during a blizzard! During nap time, I performed an impromptu “Blizzard Dance” on our deck. Photography by, none other than, my hubby, Ashish.

Winter Solstice Party!

Kwanzaa, Hanukkah, Eid, Christmas, Samay Ki Pukar…All present and accounted for!

Today was Nishad’s last day of school before Winter Break. I recall it when I was a kid, it was called “Christmas vacation!” Times have changed, though, and I feel for the better. In order for a child to grow-up and thrive in our world, to their fullest potential, they need to be aware of ALL cultures, ALL celebrations, ALL religions…which, simply put, are now represented in the United States. It was a wonderful celebration for the children. They spoke of how they all celebrated in various ways according to their religions or culture.

I volunteered to speak about the Winter Solstice. Ashish worked from home and baby Arun was his little assistant! We met up at P.F. Changs for lunch and then headed to the Border’s to let Nishad pick out something. The weather cooperated! It was beautiful outside…which may the afternoon all the more perfect!

There were about 45 children present, though there are only 10 children in Nishad’s class. I read a book, spoke a little about hibernation, the longest day of the year, had the children act out an impromptu sunrise filled with colors, sang a song and danced with streamers in the colors yellow, orange and red- symbolic of the suns rays. Of course, I had to hand out sunglasses to all as well. We must prepare for the longer days ahead! The children also learned a Caribbean dance. That was a lot of fun!

Every time I walk into Nishad’s school I thank God that we are so fortunate to send him there.
One of the reasons we applied for Nishad to be at the school he is at, is because the children enrolled in the school reflect our global society. The world is a lot smaller now. In order for our next generation to compete in a global market, they need to know multiple languages, not just English, or even Spanish. Spanish is good in the sense that, if taught early enough, children will develop an ear for language. Spanish is limited in regards to where growth and commerce will be happening. However, the truth lies in those that will be speaking Japanese, Chinese, Hindi and French. Yet another reason why public school doesn’t make the cut. You get what you pay for.

At one time, public school may have been sufficient, but it’s time has since passed. It’s sad that in one of the wealthiest nations on earth, in order to give your child the best education, you need to pay out of pocket. I’m not talking about taxes either. I’m referring to $6,000-$19,000 a year for a top-notch program starting from pre-school until Senior year. Yes, even before you pay for college tuition, your kids are already in an academic whirlpool.

Unfortunately, so many resort to ECFE and public funded programs that offer little more than “play time” by inadequate staff. This goes for community education classes as well. Believe me, I’ve given them several attempts to redeem themselves by enrolling in different classes with my child. However, in order to get a quality gymnastics class, I need to venture to a real gym and a real swim school… 20-minutes away, paying 6 or 7 times as much. How frustrating, disappointing…and such a waste of time! I recall teaching dance and meeting new students that came from such ‘recreational’ programs. Some of them had such potential, but already, at such young ages, formed bad habits because of poor instruction through community education classes. It was double the work for them (and me) to re-teach the basics. That’s where some parents and I differ. This experience has taught me that if you do enroll your child in something, invest in them now, when they are little, so they don’t form those bad habits. Let them nail the basics, whatever the subject may be, as they can only grow and build stronger from there. It’s not about convenience…it’s about being your child’s advocate and arming them with the tools they need.

I understand that you do what you have to do, or know- and yes, exposing your child to something is better than nothing. However, there has to be a better way to educate society as a whole. I’m incredibly impressed in a pre-school in which every head teacher has their Masters degree, and every assistant, their bachelors. This on top of Montessori training.

We have our priorities in life. Our kids, and any reference to them tops that list. We make sacrifices- we must.