Lanterns & Birthdays

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Konnichiha (pronounced as konnichiwa, “hello” in Japanese)!

As parents, we hope to rear compassionate, loving, generous children- not just life long learners. The essence of the well-rounded individual… I see the process beginning to form with Nishad. There have been so many moments when my heart beams with pride. Already, he speaks softly, with kind and gentle words and is so careful not to hurt any one’s feelings intentionally. Today, while at the Japanese Lantern Lighting Festival in Saint Paul, I told him of how I always wanted a ‘twisty’ sucker, but my parents never gave me one. He looked at me with those big,brown eyes filled with love and compassion and said, “Momma, you can get one. Have a lick from mine.” I took him up on that offer- and we both laughed after.

This was our first year attending the Japanese Lantern Lighting Festival, although it’s been charted on our calender since April! We planned out entire summer out in advance this year as we had such a long winter- we wanted to soak up as much of the summer as possible. We will definitely be saving the date for next year’s festival! This was an amazing festival and cultural buffet for the mind! There were so many people from varying backgrounds. Wonderful performers delighted audiences, Japanese traditional clothing and crafts abound and amazing food to satisfy any crowd. We had sushi (salmon, shrimp), Inar (a type of sweet rice and tofu served in a type of pastry boat), vegetable egg roll, vegetable rice, crab ragoon, chicken on a skewer (hot, hot, hot and a little sweet!) and too much green tea! Nishad had a blast playing the Japanese fish game (He won a train and a mat for the train- surely made in China, though from the Japanese festival!). Both boys really enjoyed the Japanese drums. Anything that involves music and they are instantly captivated. There was a traditional lion dance that Nishad and I went up close to watch. I gave Nishad a dollar to feed the lion.

Here’s where my faith in humanity has been fully restored, by the act of another small boy, who was about the age of 9 or 10. We were standing waiting to feed the lion (as anyone wanting good-luck would do!) and a ton of kids crowded around us (the lion was headed for Nishad) and pushed by. Being that we try to teach Nishad not to be obnoxious, loud, or rude, I simply held his hand and silently thought, “Ok, obviously we will all get a chance to ‘feed’ the lion” without pushing our way forth. Just then this boy grabs Nishad’s hand and announces, “Make way please! We’re coming through to feed the lion. We have money to give the lion.” Just like that, kids moved…it was like the parting of the sea…Not knowing who this other child was, I let go of Nishad’s hand, taking a breath and I trusted that things would be okay. Just as I got a little nervous that my baby, who was towered over by a lot of bigger kids, would be pushed or stepped on (as the crowd started growing again and pushing forward), I heard a voice say, “Make way please! We are done feeding the lion and need to step out of every ones way.” I suddenly saw this boy appear, with Nishad in tow. Nishad then told me about how he fed the lion and how he put his fingers in the lions mouth. To ‘feed’ the lion brings good luck upon you. Many returns to that little boy befriended Nishad.

On to the Lamp Lighting! We staked out a spot prior to the event by leaving our blankets in front. Our view didn’t disappoint. What a beautiful ceremony. As a matter of fact, I was so surprised when I Nishad and I approached the man that lit lanterns to find him so friendly. He had a nice little conversation with Nishad and even spoke in Hindi to him (he knew some Japanese too). Nishad instantly put his hand together when he said, “Namaste” after we explained that the name Nishad is a Hindi name, meaning the note of “Ni” in Hindi, which converted on the Western musical scale is “Ti.” He told Nishad how beautiful and unique his name is and Nishad had such a proud smile.
Later, during the ceremony, I walked over to take a picture. The same man turned to me as he was lowering lanterns into the water after lighting them and said, “Is there anyone that you would like to dedicate a lantern to in memory of?” My heart smiled with this gesture as my eyes began to swell with the out pour of emotion. “Yes, my mother, Wanda,” I said. In such a peaceful and respectful voice, he raised the lantern and said, “This one is for Wanda.” I watched her lantern drift, until I couldn’t see the outline of the lantern anymore- only the light from the lantern was visible. (Her lantern is pictured with the man placing it into the water.)

Ashish and I were such late night owls! Reminded me of our dating days. We haven’t been out this late with the kids, since before Arun was born. We stopped over at Taco Bell on the way home and looked at one another while waiting in the drive-through, “We haven’t been here in a LONG time!” Yes, it was at least 2 years. We were back by 10PM. All in all a GREAT day.

We had two birthday parties this weekend! On Saturday we went to Elm Creek to celebrate Jaxson’s birthday- Nishad’s friend who lives down the block. He turned 3 years old. We always enjoy seeing the Bean’s and their family is so nice to chat with. Jaxson shared his new toys with Nishad and they “drove” them all around the park. Both Nishad and Arun needed baths by the time we came home!

Today, we also celebrated another friend’s birthday that lives down the block, Baby Lucas! Who is no longer a baby as he is now on the go, go, go and 1! Lucas sure isn’t short on supplies for toys! Nishad knew exactly where his house was as there was a big bouncy house in front. They are another family that has such nice relatives that made us feel right at home- such gracious people.

PS Check out the upside down draggon in the cloud picture? 🙂

Fast Times in August

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After a whirlwind of excitement, I’m finally back to tend to my ‘garden.’

The weekend seemingly evaporated before our eyes- as most weekends do. We’ve not had the air conditioning on in days…an all too familiar reminder that a change of season is about to take place. Days are definitely shorter. As I watch my annuals begin to dwindle away, I feel positive that we did so much this summer, but sad that summer days will soon be a thing of the past.
I face Autumn with mixed emotions. Both my boys were born in Autumn, my birthday is in the Autumn and our anniversary is in the Autumn. My baby Nishad will start pre-school this Autumn. Autumn is actually my favorite season- and most magical, thanks to our boys. If only Autumn could convince Winter not to rear his ugly head.
Monday we had wonderful guests that visited us while on a 18 day vacation of the upper mid-west; Claire, Francesca and Kieth stayed with us. Claire first danced into my heart when she was a little older than Nishad. I still can picture her, like it was yesterday- a pink tu-tu, slippers and her hair in a pony tail with such big eyes looking up at me in an angelic voice, “Hi, Miss Beverly.” She was a student in my pre-ballet class and quickly advanced to Ballet I. Claire also read the poem, “If Roses Grow in Heaven” at our wedding. She and her Mom were at my baby shower too. When I told Nishad that they were coming to visit he replied, “I don’t think I’ve seen them in a long time.” He was right! It’s been about 3 years since I’ve seen them. Claire is growing into quite the beautiful, intelligent and talented young lady filled with grace and courtesy (Montessori child that she is!). Claire is 9, a gymnast, plays the piano and loves to take photographs (she showed me 500 of her pictures she took while in South Dakota, North Dakota, Sioux Falls and Montana). Nishad loved having a gymnastics buddy. Keith serenaded us with his guitar- amazing! Francesca warmed my heart with her laughter and smile.
They are such an inspirational family. They have a beautiful repore with Claire. Nishad *loved* being carried around my Francesca. Arun even went to Keith to be held while Mom took pictures at the Zoo. Seeing them made me miss where I grew-up. There is something so familiar about certain people that you can instantly relate with- I think people from Chicagoland are like that. Very genuine. Keith even gave me his sour kraut recipe. He told me that he lives next to “Josie”- the lady that owns Josie’s restaurant that you can order dumplings from online. He said that if he opened a restaurant next door to Josie’s, he’d put her out of business. I believe him! At one point, Kieth, Fran, Claire and I were all talking about kolacky, rye bread and houska. I laughed and said, “See, Honey! There are more of us out there that are like this!” Though I knew they have to get back home, I was sad to see them leave.
Roses Grow in Heaven
If roses grow in Heaven,
Lord please pick a bunch for me,
Place them in my Mother’s arms
And tell her they are from me.
Tell her I love her and I miss her,
And when she turns to smile,
Place a kiss upon her cheek.
And hold her for awhile.
Because remembering her is easy,
I do it every day.
But there’s an ache in my heart
As I’m missing her today.
Yesterday, we received a letter from Nishad’s teacher, Brenda. Looking at the school calendar, we are going to have quite the packed social year as there seems to be a lot of family gatherings, speakers, coffees and festivals! Exciting! A whole new community. The first is for a parent to attend on the 26th. The same day we have an ice cream social where Nishad will meet other children, we’ll meet other families and the staff. Under the advice of his teacher, we went out and bought Nishad a pair of Croc’s to be used as his inside shoes. We have to buy a plant for the first day of school so he can find a spot for it in the classroom. His teacher said this will give them a sense of ownership of the classroom from the start, divert their attention from the separation of their parents and…the classroom gets beautiful new flowers each year! There are so many things to sign-up and volunteer for as parents. We look forward to doing our part an parents and taking an active role in Nishad’s education.
Last night was one of the longest park and rec. meetings I’ve been to in some time. I think it was also one of the better meetings although, at times, it seemed a bit heated, it was productive. It’s great to have new people on board, and to have opinions and to be able to back-up your belief in those opinions.
Ashish worked from home today- he’s gone from manager to taking over a directors job. Boy has he been busy lately! The contractors also started siding our house today. I worked on some stuff for my business today, as well as a flyer/save the date, that I volunteer my time creating for our park and rec. events. Pumpkin Patch day will be here before I know it!
I’m learning to be more assertive with my business. I don’t take anything personal, but I must admit, a few people have placed me in odd positions in which I’ve had to be blunt after repeatedly being questioned. It’s not fair that I would charge someone else for something and not another. Plus there is the issue of time. Time is so important.
As business owner, one has to accept that some people may not like your decisions. I need to be true to myself, my business and ethics. I am so excited to be able to offer something unique, personal, custom and creative- a fresh alternative. Flash a smile and create a memory! That’s my business plug! 🙂
Ashish is wonderful at supporting me- as are a few of my good friends. I actually was signed on another photo session! I’ll be taking ‘action’ pictures of a dance troupe on September 15th. Then they scheduled me for portraits as well. I’m really looking forward to that! Right now it’s nice as I can pick and choose what I really have time for, as our kids our are first priority. I try not to do any design work while they are up during the day as I’m a stay at home mom for a reason…to be with them, teach them and spend this precious time with them.
I feel I’m a bit blue today…The thought of Nishad going to school, a very good school in which he’s ready to thrive in, also makes brings me to the reality that my little boy is growing…and soon, he won’t be with me ALL day long. Funny, there were times when I thought that after we filled out his application and heard about his acceptance letter I would be doing the Hallelujah dance. I’m still excited for him. I’m just not dancing over not seeing him…albeit three hours a day…but he IS my baby. Hard to let go.

One World One Dream

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Today was an opportunity for Nishad to get acquainted with the Olympic Games, but most importantly for Nishad to learn that the message during the activities is one of friendship and peace. People playing and working together in peace and friendship makes for a better and beautiful world.

As we watched the Opening Ceremonies, we made sure to cheer for countries with smaller representation- not just the popular ones. I feel that it’s the people from those smaller, poor countries, that really bring forth the Olympic spirit as they are there representing their country, against all odds. Despite the annoyingly bias and ‘political’ commentary the hosts, it was an impressive show.

There were so many highlights and how could there not be on a 300 million dollar masterpiece? I have to admit that one of my favorite parts was the dancers who seemingly used their body’s as an extension of a pen. As they danced, Chinese calligraphy ‘magically’ appeared and trailed behind them. I also found it very moving when they had the boy from the earth quake zone walk in the parade. They certainly did the Olympics proud. I’ve almost forgiven our NBC for upsetting my hubby by not broadcasting the ceremony live.

Our celebration began this afternoon. In preparation of the games we learned about China, made a Chinese lantern to decorate our dinner table and created a panda bear stick puppet. This weekend we’ll continue on with our Olympic theme by creating a torch, flags and playing some Olympic, tot-size games.

For dinner, I made a better-than-take-out Chinese dinner! On the menu was Ma Po Tofu and Shrimp with Lobster Sauce. FANTABULOUS! Below are the recipes- You simply must try them. Your taste buds will jump up and down and give you a “perfect 10!”

Ma Po Tofu (Auntie D’s recipe)
Ingredients
1 (1-pound) package reduced-fat firm tofu, cut into 6 slices
1/2 cup vegetable broth1 tablespoon cornstarch
2 tablespoons low-sodium soy sauce
1 tablespoon oyster sauce
1 to 2 teaspoons chili garlic sauce (such as Lee Kum Kee)
1 cup green beans, trimmed and cut into 2-inch pieces
1 tablespoon grated peeled fresh ginger (recommend mincing)
3 garlic cloves, minced
1/3 cup chopped green onions
Preparation
Place tofu slices on several layers of paper towels; cover with additional paper towels. Place a dinner plate on top of covered tofu; let stand 30 minutes. Remove plate; discard paper towels. Cut tofu slices into 1/2-inch cubes.Combine broth, cornstarch, soy sauce, oyster sauce, and chili garlic sauce, stirring with a whisk.
Heat a large nonstick skillet with 2 tbsp olive oil over medium-high heat. Add green beans; saute 8-10 minutes or until cooked and crisp. Add ginger and garlic; cook 1 minute, stirring constantly. Add tofu; cook 7-8 minutes or until golden, stirring frequently. Add broth mixture to pan. Bring to a boil; cook 1 minute or until mixture thickens. Remove from heat.
Sprinkle with onions.

Shrimp with Lobster Sauce
This is the recipe for shrimp with lobster sauce (without the black beans) that is often featured at Chinese take-outs and restaurants.
Ingredients:
Fresh shrimp, deveined and butterflied, 10 – 15 per person
4 to 8 spring onion (green onions, scallions), chopped
2 large garlic cloves, chopped or minced
2 cups of chicken stock (*I substituted vegetable broth)
4 tablespoons of sweet white wine, such as sweet Glen Ellen White Zinfandel
2 tablespoons soy sauce
2 teaspoons sugar
2 1/2 tablespoons of Cornstarch and 1/2 cup of water
4 egg whites, beaten with 1/4 cup of water
2 tablespoons vegetable oil for stir-frying
Preparation:Rinse the shrimp in warm water and pat dry. Rinse the spring onions, drain and chop. Chop or mince the garlic cloves. Combine the chicken stock, white wine, soy sauce, and sugar and set aside. In a small bowl, dissolve the cornstarch into 1/2 cup water. Whisk the egg whites into 1/4 cup water and set aside. Heat 2 tablespoons of oil in a wok, large pot, or frying pan or skillet on medium high to high heat. Stir fry the garlic and spring onions for about 30 seconds to a minute, taking care not to burn the garlic.Add the shrimp and stir fry for 2 minutes.Add the chicken broth mixture, bring to a boil and boil about 1 minute.Re-stir the cornstarch and water mixture and stir it into broth. Immediately afterward, slowly pour in the egg whites, breaking them up by gently stirring them with a fork (stirring them twice across and then twice across again in a tic tack toe pattern). Be careful not to over stir the egg whites. The dish is ready when the sauce begins to boil and thicken.

Nutritional Breakdown (based on 3 servings, with 30 shrimp total: Each serving includes: Calories 250, 14 g Carbohydrates, 19 g Protein, 10 g Fat, (1 g Saturated Fat, 6 g Monounsaturated Fat) 91 mg Cholesterol, 1 g Fibre, 2005 mg Sodium, 338 mg Potassium. Note: To reduce the sodium, use store bought low sodium chicken broth

Apples of my Eye

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As easy as pie- or apple cake as it is in house this evening. My darling husband moonlighted as a pastry chef this evening with his talented and innovative assistant, Nishad. I went out for mere 45- minutes and when I returned, the aroma of something good baking in the oven lured me in, nose first. My guys made their very own apple cake!

Our neighbor, Kris, who has only been kind and nurturing toward us gave Nishad a Tastefully Simple Nana’s Apple Cake to make. He was so excited that he carried the box through the house for a few days as if to remind me that we need to bake it. This was the first time he and Dad baked together, without Mom. He must have been in 7th heaven with his Daddy at his side. There is no doubt that he loves me, but his Daddy is the apple of his eye- no pun intended! 🙂

This morning we took a bike ride. Back in June I purchased a bike trailor for the boys to ride in along with a new bike for myself with some of the proceeds from the garage sale I had (Yes, we were clearing out baby stuff). I really needed an adult bike- after having kids, things have changed… I described it to a few people as an old-lady bike. There’s no frills about it- and I love it! I guess it’s good that I went for the bike ride earlier being that there is cake in the house now!

Arun is really ready to walk. He loves to kneel on one knee and suddenly jolt up forward in the air as though he’s trying to spring to his feet. He cruises just about anywhere and everywhere. One of his favorite places to stand is at the patio window, looking out at the deck.

Nishad has been expectational and so loving toward Arun this week. He’s always made sure we include the baby in our prayers or if we mention we are going somewhere, “And baby Arun too!” However, he’s really starting to display his love for Baby Arun physically…in such sweet, precious moments.

Picnic at Daddy’s Work

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We started the day with grins and giggles! Off to the park in our wagon we went. Both boys didn’t want to get off the swings. We’re lucky to have a neighborhood park literally a stones throw away from our house. Only one of the perks and reasons why we chose this house and lot.

By 10:30AM we were on the road! Destination surprise picnic style lunch with Daddy at his work! After calling Daddy we learned that his entire day was packed with meetings and he only had a time frame from 11:30AM-noon open. Perfect! The boys and I made a stop at Noodles and Company and hand picked lunch. There is a park trail, pond and golf course adjacent to Daddy’s work so we found a nice shady, grassy spot and had a beautiful picnic. We kept seeing all these employees coming out on their walks, run and bike rides..and here we were having a great dose of family-time in the middle of the work day.

We made a stop to a store after, and then headed back for home. It was already a bit beyond nap time. However, the nice thing about being a stay-at-home Mommy is that you can be flexible and let your kids take the lead. Sometimes, I admit, it feels like you are a slave to nap times, but it’s all relative. For the rest of the week, we are going to try to take it easy and hang out as a family. Life gets way too busy! In only 2 1/2 weeks, Nishad starts at his Montessori school!

Nishad, my garden assistant, was helping me harvest all the ripe veggies this evening. We picked out first zucchini! Hurray! We’ve had so many cucs, and the cherry tomatoes are so good that a lot of them don’t even make it in the house between Nishad and I. Nishad and I also spotted our first WATERMELONS growing! They are bigger than a golf ball now and a dark forest green. I think I may have to expand my garden sooner than next year. The watermelon and the cantaloupes are REALLY spreading out, so I’ll need to make additional room. Spread the love out…that’s right!